But I do subscribe to some of her thoughts on relationships:
From this month's glamour (and I WANT that shirt that Jennifer Connelly has on the cover)
To find the right one, you have to be the right one
The more growth you experience on your own, the healthier you are and the healthier the person you attract will be.
Couldn't have said it better Alanis - which is WHY... WHY... I said that right after I separated, all I attracted were bad guys, because I WAS in a bad spot myself.
I'm trying to get out of that bad place... I think sometimes I am out of it... but then I always end up doing something stupid and I wonder just how far I've really come.
Put yourself first
Sayeth Alanis: I used to think I had to constantly give with every person I was with. Now I'm better at boundaries.
Okay.. I agree with this.. mainly because I see how many of my friends just give and give and give, and I don't know that they ever really get anything back.
Trying to fight this tendency myself... I'm a giving person by nature, but I'm getting MUCH better at drawing lines in the sand and saying, DO NOT CROSS THIS. *ThIS* is unacceptable behavior and you will not treat me that way.
The first time you do it, it sort of empowers you - because the guy either thinks you are a total bitch and storms off, or he takes a step back, says Fair Enough - and it's never an issue again.
Resist the urge to cling
Alanis sez: Ryan often needs to spend an afternoon alone, just doing something witout me.
I'm not typically a clingy person... I don't have to see you every day... This is a nonissue for me. In fact, I tend to get sick of people and need my space. It's the Snidge way.
I'm still here... waiting for the hurricane.. and actually kinda hating that I'm missing the coverage on the news. I'm sure Snidgedad is GLUED to FOX watching.
Yes... they are big Fox fans... Look... I can't escape my plaid background, regardless of what I think. You're reading the girl that spent her summers caddying at her grandfather's country club while she was in high school. (good tips).
Suck it.