So several weeks ago (two to be exact) a lady that I worked with in my old position called me and said that she had someone that really wanted to meet me.
You remember him... gweedo. Mr. slicky hair - neatly trimmed mustache and goatee - pinky ring - bracelet - AND necklace.
Now... I realize many of you do not know me except for this blog - but I must ask you... what about me would equal a guy that wears jewelry?
No.
And remember I told my friend that he seemed nice, but was not my type.
All right... cut to yesterday. I have a voicemail. "Snidget, this is X Y, please give me a call at your earliest convenience."
Umm... okay... I was thinking damn... what have I done? It's obviously an LTC number at another campus... but I don't know who it is.
So I pick up the phone and call. X Y answers. "Hello"
"Hello... XY?"
"Yes..."
"It's Snidget"
"Oh hi..."
"um... hi..."
{awkward silence}
"Remember... I'm ann's friend..."
{light bulb goes off in Snidget's head} "Oh yeah! {then in more of a groan} yeah...."
"So it's been a long two weeks.."
"What?"
"Since we last met.. you know it's been two weeks..."
"No.. I didn't realize that."
"Yeah... So I was wondering if you wanted to go to lunch..."
{Snidget winces as she finds herself saying...} "umm... okay... like when?"
"I was thinking today"
"oh... no... I can't do today..."
"Okay... well what day works better for you..."
"I guess I could do Thursday..."
"Okay great.... why don't I send you an email and you can send me one back and tell me where you want to go that day..."
"all right..."
DAMMIT! Why didn't I just say no.
So I kept going back and forth yesterday... Should I go? I could make it clear that I just want to be friends... But I have a bad feeling about this one...
I send him an email at 7 this morning telling him that something has come up and I can't go.
Morning goes by - no reply email from him - GREAT! Maybe he got the hint. So I leave and run some errands at lunch, come back and oh I have not only an email, but I also have a voicemail.
The email only has "What day is better for you?" in the body.
The voicemail is sounding desperate "*Please* give me a call back..."
I figure it's okay to blow this one off, right?
I knew I had a bad feeling for a reason.
Remember that whole awesome post you did about how everything your mom taught you hurts you in the business world? Same applies to relationships. Never waste a single second being with people you dont like.
Oh lord, Snidge. I'm laughing but at the same time cringing for you. I've had the jewelry guys interested in me, too, and I always thing, "WHY????"
You'll get through it...and remember, this will make one of those funny stories to tell your grandkids (or something like that!).
counting days is BAD. dude has nothing going on in his life. counter-measures should be deployed and you should dive! dive!
ok, so here is my take, and you can ignore me. seriously.
do the right thing and tell him that while he is a "nice" guy, you don't mix work with your personal life. then tell him you are sorry if the "friendship" signals got crossed.
or, just tell him you aren't interested.
but don't do what we all hate when it happens to us.
ok, that's all of the "gwens the super nice girl" crap for today.