nice, right?
We went to Tae Kwon do then we stopped to get some stuff at the grocery and that's when the incident happened. Right there on aisle 5 near the sugar and spices. Thank God he didn't do it at home. That's all I'm saying.
So anyway...
Today I was reminded of why I never stopped to become a stay at home mom... NOT that there is anything wrong with that at all.. Cuz there's not... but for me - I needed to keep moving.
There was a girl that resided in my old cube farm (at least for a little while) that was a CrazyAssBitch (CAB). She would get into it with her husband and scream out "SHUT UP YOU STUPID SON OF A BITCH!" at the top of her lungs and then slam the phone down on the receiver, then take off... She had one of the IT guys constantly call different numbers to either "see who picked up the phone" or so that he could "pretend to be" her husband. It was INSANE. She was a train wreck... and her husband was too.
So yeah... in the middle of all of that drama - and it was at least weekly - she tells me one day that she's going to quit her job and just be a stay at home mom.
Now - seeing as how I have witnessed the arguments and the cursing and the screaming and "FUCK YOU"s and all of those nice-ities, I asked her "CAB, do you think that's a good idea?" Cuz you know... I could just see her quitting her job and then something happening and them getting a divorce and then... what would she do? I mean she was leaving a pretty cushy job at the LTC - why quit?
But quit she did, and several months later, I'd run into her at what is now the Macy's in town, and she would tell me that yep that SOB had cheated on her and yep, she was divorcing his ass, and yep, she was taking him for all that he was worth, and yep, she needed a job.
Well I can tell you, the LTC was glad to be rid of her and they were not about to hire her and her dramatics back. So she looked and looked and looked for another job - and then somehow her old phone number at the LTC had gotten forwarded to my phone - so I was getting calls from attorneys and collections agencies and credit companies... it was horrible. So I can only imagine where she is today.
I mention all of this because today I ran into a friend of my mom's. She's 56 and has been out of the work force for thirty something years and is now looking for a job - because she too is a victim of divorce.
It just made me realize how very important it is for us women to protect our financial independence... and our credit... and everything that allows us to stand on our own two feet. It's important... In this life, you can only trust yourself.
O yes Lawd. All women should set up their own retirement, have a secret bank account, And keep those skill sets viable! YES YES YES
I've been in my house now for over a year and I still get stuff for the previous 10 tenants. From the county child welfare system, collection agencies, all sorts of things. I wonder what went on here before I bought the place. Sad when women who have been stay at home mom's get divorced and end up with nothing. How does that happen in a so called civilized society?
Johnny Carino's, four times on the table, all from the same child. They hated seeing us at the hostess podium.
I can't agree enough on the independence issue. Having an education is one big step in the right direction, but so is financial 'literary' that is being promoted for the youth. Good for you, teenie bopper, but we live in the real world, so move over and watch us learn.
Great post, sugar!!
Absolutely! I spent too long farting around as a SAHM when I should have been preparing for a career. My options are much more limited now because of that.
I was working full time at a job I loved when Hubby and I got together. He wanted me to stay home with our last child and I *didn't* want too but I have, on year 5 now.
It's not a choice I would have made but it really meant alot to him so I have done so. BUT, I have worked on the computer for myself and for a company I telecommute with. I just can't *not* work. I have made sure there isn't a lapse in my resume either so that next year if I want to walk out and get a job, I can without a problem.
I just can't be a "housewife" not that there is anything wrong with it. I have a mind for business and must use it. I am a workaholic and Hubby says I work too much, but hey I gave him what he wanted... I do work from home, set my own hours and make decent money. Works for me, just want to make more money lol.